Neurodivergent-Affirming Therapy
Neurodivergence is part of the natural diversity of human minds, not a disorder to be corrected. I offer neurodiversity-affirming therapy by telehealth to ADHDer, AuDHDers, and other neurodivergent adults in California, New Mexico, Oregon, and Washington. You decide what well-being and success mean for you.
Who this is for
I work with autistic, ADHD, and AuDHD adults, and with anyone who diverges from neuronormative expectations in ways that fall under the wider neurodivergent umbrella. Self-identification is valid, and you do not need a diagnosis, or certainty, to work with me. I also work with mixed-neurotype relationships, and I see individuals as well as Dyadic and Triadic+ relationships.
Many neurodivergent people are also queer or trans, and some describe themselves as neuroqueer. All of who you are is welcome here.
How I work
My work is grounded in the neurodiversity paradigm instead of the pathology paradigm. I do not treat autism or ADHD as disorders, and the goal is never to help you appear more neurotypical. We focus on easing the distress you want help with, not on changing traits that are simply part of who you are.
Neuronormativity, the idea that there is one right way for a mind to function, operates alongside other systems of power such as capitalism and cisheteronormativity. I bring the same anti-oppressive, anti-capitalist lens here that I bring to all of my work. Your worth is not measured by productivity or by how well you fit in. Stimming and special interests are welcome, as are different ways of communicating, and you never need to hold eye contact or keep still with me.
Through IFS, we can get to know the parts of you that learned to mask in order to be accepted or avoid harm, appreciating the work they have done while making room to set some of it down. If you are plural, IFS language is never imposed, and your system's understanding of itself comes first. AEDP keeps connection at the center, because so many neurodivergent people have spent years feeling alone in how they experience the world.
Common reasons people reach out
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Understanding yourself after a late identification or self-identification, including grief for the support you did not get
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Unmasking, and discovering who you are when you are not performing neuronormativity
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Autistic or ADHD burnout, and building a life that does not depend on pushing past your limits
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The cumulative impact of being misunderstood, criticized, or punished for how you exist
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Being neurodivergent alongside queer, trans, or non-monogamous identities
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Communication differences in relationships, including between partners with different neurotypes
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Workplaces, schools, families, or health care systems that have pathologized you
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Distress, anxiety, or depression connected to living in a neuronormative world
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Expectations around time, attention, and productivity that do not fit how your mind works
Frequently asked questions
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No. Self-identification is valid, and so is still exploring
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No. We work on what you identify as distressing or meaningful, and you define what progress looks like.
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Yes. Therapy can help you understand each other's needs and ways of communicating without casting either person as the problem.
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I am a private pay practice. Individual sessions are $200 and partner sessions are $250, each 50 minutes. Superbills are available on request.
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Reach out through the contact form to schedule a free 15-minute phone consultation. It is a chance to ask questions and get a sense of whether working together feels like a good fit.
What neurodiversity-affirming care means
Neurodivergence is understood as human diversity, not disorder
The focus is on reducing distress, not changing traits
You define what is meaningful, distressing, or functional for you
Connection is prioritized over compliance
Neuronormative and capitalist definitions of success are rejected
Competence is presumed, and lived experience is listened to and learned from