Trauma does not always look like one terrible event. For many queer, trans, and neurodivergent people, it builds over years of being misunderstood, rejected, or harmed for who you are. I offer trauma therapy by telehealth to adults in California, New Mexico, Oregon, and Washington, at a pace that stays in your hands.
Trauma Therapy
Who this is for
I work with adults carrying the effects of trauma, whether it came from a single experience, from relationships that hurt you, or from living for a long time in a world that treated your identity as a problem. I see individuals, and trauma is often part of the work I do with Dyadic and Triadic+ relationships as well.
You do not need to be sure that what happened to you "counts" as trauma. If it still shapes how you feel, react, or connect, it is worth attention.
How I work with trauma
I see trauma responses as adaptations. The parts of you that stay on alert, shut down, or keep people at a distance learned to do that for good reasons. Through IFS, we get to know those protective parts and what they are guarding, so the younger, more hurt parts of you can receive care without anyone being forced into the open before they are ready.
AEDP keeps us anchored in connection and in what you are feeling in the present moment. Trauma usually happens in aloneness, and part of healing is experiencing difficult feelings with someone steadily alongside you.
EMDR is a trauma-focused approach that helps your brain reprocess memories that still feel stuck, so they carry less charge. Before any processing begins, we spend time building resources and a sense of steadiness, and we only move forward when you are ready. EMDR can be done over telehealth using on-screen eye movements or self-tapping, and I often weave it together with IFS and AEDP instead of using it on its own.
Common reasons people reach out
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Experiences of abuse, assault, or violence
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Childhood experiences that still shape how you feel in relationships
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Relational and attachment wounds, including betrayal by partners or family
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Religious trauma and harm from faith communities
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Family rejection or harm connected to your identity
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Discrimination, harassment, and identity-based violence
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Harm from being pathologized, or pressured to mask, as a neurodivergent person
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Medical trauma, including providers who dismissed or mistreated you
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Hypervigilance, shutdown, nightmares, or feeling stuck in survival mode
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Grief and loss
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Reconnecting with meaning and with yourself after harm
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No. We can do meaningful work without you retelling every part of your story. You decide what to share and when.
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You do not need a label. We start with what is affecting you.
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Yes. Trauma often shows up between partners, and Dyadic and Triadic+ sessions can make room for it with care.
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I am a private pay practice. Individual sessions are $200 and partner sessions are $250, each 50 minutes. Superbills are available on request.
Frequently asked questions
LGBT people are nearly four times more likely than non-LGBT people to be victims of violent crime.
In 2024, more than half of LGBTQI+ adults hid a personal relationship in an effort to avoid discrimination.