Couples & Relationship Therapy
Relationships can be where we feel most at home and also where we feel most alone. I offer couples and relationship therapy by telehealth to partners in California, New Mexico, Oregon, and Washington, for Dyadic relationships, triads, polycules, and every configuration in between.
Who this is for
I work with partners of all genders and orientations, monogamous and non-monogamous, married or unmarried, living together or apart. Dyadic therapy can also include relationships outside of romance, such as co-parents, siblings, a parent and adult child, or close friends.
You do not need to be in crisis to start. Some people come in during a hard season, and others want to deepen something that is already good.
How I work
As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I see a relationship as a system with its own patterns, not as one person's problem. We look at the cycle you get caught in together and at what each of you is protecting when it starts. I also pay attention to how power, gender roles, and invisible labor shape who carries what in your relationship.
My work integrates AEDP and IFS. AEDP keeps us focused on what is happening between you in the moment, helping each of you feel and be felt by the other instead of getting lost in the same argument. IFS helps each partner get to know the parts that take over when things get hard, so you can speak for those parts instead of from them. I also weave in elements of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), which understands much of conflict as a protest against disconnection, along with practical tools from the Gottman Method for repair and communication.
Common reasons people reach out
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Feeling stuck in the same argument, no matter what it starts about
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Emotional distance, or feeling more like roommates than partners
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Rebuilding trust after an affair, a broken agreement, or another betrayal
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Differences in desire, sex, or intimacy
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Life transitions such as moving in together, becoming parents, relocating, or retiring
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Opening a relationship, or adjusting agreements in a non-monogamous one
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Communicating across differences in neurotype, culture, or background •
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Stress from outside the relationship, including discrimination, family rejection, or minority stress
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Unequal expectations around caregiving, household labor, and emotional labor
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Deciding whether to stay together, or separating with care
Frequently asked questions
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No. Partners can join from the same room or from different locations, as long as each person is in a state where I am licensed: California, New Mexico, Oregon, or Washington.
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No. I work with triads, polycules, and relationships between metamours, as well as two-person relationships.
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Not always. If there is abuse or someone feels afraid of a partner, joint sessions may not be the right place to start. I can talk with you about other options and help you find support.
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I am a private pay practice. Individual sessions are $200 and partner sessions are $250, each 50 minutes. Superbills are available on request.
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Reach out through the contact form to schedule a free 15-minute phone consultation. It is a chance to ask questions and get a sense of whether working together feels like a good fit.
In two national samples of single U.S. adults, more than one in five reported having been in a consensually non-monogamous relationship at some point in their lives.
In 2024, more than half of LGBTQI+ adults hid a personal relationship in an effort to avoid discrimination.